This is a weird topic, but I’m going to dive in anyway because by now you know how I feel about extreme physical challenges, growing stronger through pain and pushing harder in a culture that wants everything quick and easy. I have run a marathon, been part of a team in an ultra marathon and participated in many intense, physically-challenging endurance events, such as the GoRuck Normandy HTL. That’s nothing compared to many men and women I’ve met along the way who have tackled much bigger, harder events.
But I have never in my life seen anything like the natural births of our sons Harlowe and Tennyson. And that’s all because of their totally badass mother — my wife, Elizabeth. She’s just unbelievable.
Nowadays, everybody wants everything fast, planned and painless. And giving birth is no exception. I’m not dissing that approach at all. Natural childbirth isn’t for everyone and I’m not a doctor. What I can tell you, from the point of view from a husband and father, is that the experience of natural childbirth is the most impressive physical feat you will ever witness.
Elizabeth (did I mention how much of a badass she is?) felt that she could train herself to deal with the pain. And she did. With Harlowe she used Birthing From Within and with Tennyson last week she used Hypnobabies, a meditation and self hypnosis technique.
They remain the most impressive physical feats I’ve ever seen with my own eyes. It was life-changing to witness our sons’ births and to see what a woman’s body can do. What it is made to do.
We live in such a softened society, most people would not even consider going this route. It makes me all the more proud of Elizabeth and awed by her that she did.
No pain, no gain? I’m not sure that applies. But I do think being able to endure pain makes you a stronger person.
For the sake of comparison, after Harlowe’s birth, Elizabeth didn’t even take a Tylenol. Her husband, on the other hand, was lying on his back in a cot taking Vicodin because his back hurt so badly.
Well, it did hurt! But I hadn’t given birth to so much as an idea that day, let alone a beautiful, healthy baby boy.
I was in awe of what Elizabeth did when she gave birth to Harlowe. Then last week she went and outdid herself by birthing Tennyson- without so much as a scream, or cry (until she saw him). Then she was home with Tennyson four hours later. That’s insane to me.
A lot of thoughts race through your mind at a time like this – what will the boys be when they grow up? Who will they look like? Who knows???
One thing I do know for certain — they will have the smartest, strongest, sweetest, prettiest, most talented, most kind mother a kid could possibly want.
And, unquestionably; the most badass also.
Tennyson was born at the Charleston Birth Place, which is PHENOMENAL. I strongly encourage you to click on the three links in this post, especially if you’re planning to have a child soon.