I skipped my workout this morning, opting for two afternoon workouts. My body told me to rest and I’m trying to finally listen. I laid in bed with my iPad and opened up Feedly, the app I use to consume most of my news. I scrolled through all the bullshit clickbait articles telling me how easy it is to make millions of dollars and live the rest of my life on a private island with my perfect little family. You know – all that bullshit I talked about here.
It’s going to be a great day. I feel rested. We have a collaboration brew day at the brewery with Holy City and I’ve blocked off some time from Push work to help and drink some beers. The kids are on their schedule and are actually sleeping until they are supposed to. Wow! Today is going to be a great day.
Then – Boom! I made a mistake I’ve been promising myself I would stop making. I checked my email. And there it was. A client was surfing the web at 2 a.m., saw an unforced error my team made (yes, it happens) and shot across a heat missile for me to wake up to. Missile launched. Missile hit. Boom! Anxiety levels are now through the freaking roof. My mood went from great to horrible. I snapped at both Elizabeth and Harlowe. I sent heat rounds to two members of my staff. I slammed dishes while washing out the coffee pot. Harlowe watched me and then slammed something because, of course, everything Daddy does is perfect and must be replicated. Shit! Here we are again.
I told you that I would tell you the true story of entrepreneurship. Here it is. You work your ass off to train up your staff, but they still screw up. You know, because they’re human beings and not robots. Your clients get pissed and send you emails at two o’clock in the morning. You wake up to said emails and get in a bad mood. You take it out on your family and staff.
I don’t want to get into the whole “staff screwing up” thing right now because that deserves a separate blog post. In fact, I’ve already written it. Read here.But there are a lot of lessons to be learned from my crappy morning.
1. Never check your email first thing in the morning, especially if you are on a schedule like mine, where you go to bed and wake up well before the rest of the world. That means other folks are still “working” and sending emails, so you’re going to wake up to a lot more emails than some folks. And those emails will absolutely dictate your mood for the day.
2. Social media, direct messages and text messages can wait. Most of that will be drama or bullshit too. Let the morning be about your own mental and physical health.
3. Meditate first thing in the morning. Get your mind right so that you are trained up and ready to deal with these situations. Yes, you must train your mind just like you train your body. I did not meditate before checking my email.
4. Before meditating, write in your journal. Spend ten minutes with an actual pen and paper – not a computer. Write out exactly what you want to accomplish today. Write out why you are #blessed. Tell yourself why life is effing badass and let that be what you think about as you’re preparing for the rest of the day, instead of dwelling all the bullshit and drama. You guessed it, I didn’t journal this morning before checking my email.
5. The morning is for exercise. The afternoon is for happy hour. That sums it up well, but I’ll write completely separate about this soon.
Smart people learn from their mistakes. Smarter people learn from other people’s mistakes. I hope this helps you make your morning and your day more badass.