It’s time to get over it.
This past weekend my wife and I attended a parenting retreat hosted by Christian psychologist John Rosemond. Overall, the two days we spent with Dr. Rosemond were well worth the time and money. We learned many techniques that we immediately started using with our two boys. I strongly recommend you checking out his books.
Much of Dr. Rosemond’s methodology is based on the idea that we should go back to a 1950s parenting style, where parents were seen as the authority and not the friend. He believes most of what now ails America stems from a shift in parenting styles starting in the 1960s with the concept of relativism – what Google defines as the doctrine that knowledge, truth, and morality exist in relation to culture, society, or historical context, and are not absolute.
In 2018 one’s feelings define reality, which is a major problem because feelings are subjective. That’s why we have to go back to a methodology based on a 1950s parent/child relationship structure, which will spill over into the entire culture. From a political standpoint, some may say that this is what’s truly meant by “Make America Great Again.” Rosemond argued, “we can’t have a nation without a set of common goals among the citizenry and all we have right now are self centered goals based on feelings.”
Now, I agree with Dr. Rosemond. As I argued in my tedX talk (click here to view), technology is doing great things for America, but it is also doing detrimental things to America. The same is true for the home and culture as a whole.
The 1960s ushered in a new era of technology with the proliferation of the television, including the first war being shown in people’s living rooms. New ideas and knowledge began spreading across America like wildfire and as a result, the barriers between neighborhoods, towns, states and regions began dissolving. Small town America died and we started becoming one homogenous nation. It took awhile, but you see it today. There truly isn’t a huge difference between Charleston, South Carolina and Los Angelas, California except for the number of Lamborghinis in LA.
Knowledge is power, or so they say. Unfortunately, humans seem to care more about using that knowledge for fighting than they do building great things and fixing the world’s problems. We’re more divisive than we have ever been as we saw recently with a shooting at a synagogue, a shooting at a yoga studio and a right-wing nutjob sending pipe bombs to liberals he doesn’t like.
We can’t go back to at 1950s home because the home isn’t isolated. The parents and the children must leave the home and become part of a larger culture, where they will inevitably be bombarded with more information and the most differing opinions the world has ever seen. There is absolutely no getting away from it, unless you move your family to the woods and live like the unabomber. There is just no way to revert back to the way it was. And, if we could just start using this knowledge for the betterment of the world, I would argue we shouldn’t. I fear that won’t happen in our lifetimes.
So, maybe Dr Rosemond is right. Our children would be better off and we could make America great again if we reverted back to a 1950s home operation. I certainly agree with some of his techniques. But the genie is already out of the bottle and it can’t be put back in. Knowledge through technological changes will only take us further and further away from small-town America.
Check back tomorrow, when I’ll dive deeper into Dr Rosemond’s recommendation about technology.