Your Daily Positive Vibes:
How many days do you have left?
The answer is that you have absolutely no idea. We all want to think that we will live into our 80s or 90s. I’m sure that’s the answer my mother, father and step-father would have given.
But my mother died at 48. My father died at 57. My step-father died at 58.
WOW! This Positive Vibes post is starting off pretty dark, huh?
It’s hard to imagine that in just nine years I will be the age of my mother when she died. And frankly, that scares me a bit. But the one that impacts me the most is my step-father, Robert. His death is the one I think about the most and the one I thought about as soon as I woke up this morning. I’m not exactly sure why but I think it’s because his was the one that could not be avoided while both my mother’s and father’s departures were self-inflicted.
While this has little to do with the point of my post, I feel the need to write about him for a few minutes. Robert and I did not get along when I was a child and through my teenage years. I didn’t appreciate what he did for me and I felt a lot of resentment that my mother remarried. We couldn’t have been more different. He was a blue collar worker and I was a total geek and bookworm. He liked to hunt. I didn’t like getting dirty. He was a man’s man. I wasn’t.
Then I went to college and grew up. I realized how much he did for two kid’s who were not his. He started his own company and became successful and I really admired him. We became drinking buddies. We became actual friends. Then my mother died and we became even closer. One of my favorite memories in my entire life was of him attending Jim DeMint’s US Senate victory party and him telling me how proud he was of me.
When I proposed to Elizabeth I asked him to be my best man. He went silent and I heard sniffles. I didn’t realize it would mean so much to him. A bit later he called and asked “so what is a father supposed to pay for in all this?” I told him not to worry about it and that I would find a way to pay for the rehearsal dinner. I will never forget that he replied “hell no! I’m paying.” My real father didn’t even attend my wedding.
Robert and I continued to grow closer. A couple short years later he was diagnosed with brain cancer. He passed away in 2008.
Back to my point – I miss Robert dearly and his death completely changed me. Robert did nothing wrong and his time came way too early. I don’t know when my time will come (and I don’t like writing that as my airplane is taking off), but I’ve vowed to myself to make every single day count. I hustle the way I do because I had three parents die young.
If I average just the lifespan of my three parents that’s 54 years old, only 15 years from today. That’s not a lot of time. Tim McGraw sings that we should “live like we are dying.” And that’s exactly what I’m doing.
So here’s my question to you today – how would you change your life if you knew you would die young?
How would you maximize your days? How would you eliminate negativity and bring more positivity into your life? Would you surround yourself with all the bullshit dominating each of our lives?
Perhaps it’s time to start living a life full of positivity.
Perhaps you should start today. Because you don’t know how many more days you have left.
I’m wishing you nothing but Positive Vibes to fill your Thursday!